Can You Really Change?
I have had a couple conversations come up recently around people changing. Mainly the question of whether change is possible after being or acting one way for so long.
I believe wholeheartedly in evolution, especially the evolution of self. My own journey and blossoming into the woman I am today is all the proof I need.
Women are always evolving. Our attitudes and beliefs shift with the people we surround ourselves with, the seasons, hormones or lack there of, and countless other variables.
Change is inevitable.
The question is can you create a change in yourself that you see as desirable?
One of the recent conversations I had about change was directed towards my own life shifts and old patterns.
There was an accusation from a very close friend that I was not in the position to coach other women when I myself needed so much help.
To be honest, it took every ounce of me not to retaliate or leave the conversation. But that would mean leaving the relationship and I didnt want that. I could also see that a lot of the accusations were coming from great pain that I had inflicted. So I stayed and I listened to the onslaught.
Who am I to coach? It is a great question and the fact is I am not a perfect human. I make mistakes and fuck up just like anybody else. I get overwhelmed, depressed, negative, and say things I shouldnt at times. Sometimes I crawl back into the old safe patterns of smallness. At times I feel so defeated that nothing makes sense.
But, the reason I keep coaching and sharing and connecting with other women is because I crawl back out of those spaces. It is because I have a fire in my soul that continues to show me the way and urges me on. I go through the overwhelm, depression, and negativity because I am human.
I coach because I realized that being human does not mean I am broken. Having big emotions, ugly jealousy, and moments of cruel action does not mean I am broken.
I coach because I continue to forgive myself for being human and I allow myself to learn from my past actions.
Someone once said that the more they learn the less they know. and I feel that. I feel it in the way I cant stop reading books about self realization, trauma, and social conditioning. The more I learn the more I desire to know and the more I desire to share.
So when my good friend challenged me with the statement that people never really change, I refuted it.
Because I have changed immeasurably from the woman I used to be.
From my own lived experience and hearing the experience of other women, here are some things the practice of Feminine Embodiment can offer you
less reactivity due to a strong body connection that anchors you in your truth
comfort with admitting when you are wrong and the ability to apologize
a sense of the bigger picture, connection to bigger things than you
confidence in who you are in all of your relationships and roles
more energy, because you choose to do the things that your body says yes to
inner alarm that lets you know when things are off, and a desire to get back to alignment
a need to be less like every body else and more like you
a hunger for more than the mundane
healthy relationships because you desire whats best for you
real sex, a product of loving your body as she is, finding a partner who wants to partner with you, curiosity, and being completely transparent about your needs
the ease and pleasure that comes from being in flow with life
I believe in change.
I believe that you can evolve as a woman.
I believe that if your are courageous enough to look into your dark shadows and discomfort you will find your flow.
You will find the woman you have maybe never dreamed of but the woman who has always been there awaiting your glance.
You will find you.
