raising kids is tough yo
As I journey through the depths of my own stories, limiting beliefs, fears, social conditioning, shame, (and anything else that blocks my flow of energy) I am reminded Again and AGain how easy it is to fuck your kids up.
You know those times when your eldest is screaming and crying and throwing this gawdawful fit that YOU believe she is too old to be throwing? So you tell her to stop being a baby or you punish her or you ignore her or threaten her.
Here is what she is seeing to be true- I cry and throw a fit and I get called a baby, i’m not a baby, I don’t want any one else to think I am a baby. I will just stop expressing my emotions and hold them in so I wont be called a baby
OR
-I cry and throw a fit and then I get in trouble for crying and throwing a fit..my toys get taken away, I don’t get to play with my friends. I will just stop expressing my emotions and hold them in so I wont get in trouble.
OR
-I cry and throw a fit and then I get ignored. I don’t want to be ignored. If expressing my emotions means getting ignored I guess I just wont express my emotions.
OR OR OR
you get the picture right?
We learn early that expressing ourselves is bad, wrong, undesirable. But wait, just the ¨negative¨ emotions are, IF you are happy, bubbly, excited, silly, etc. please express your lil heart away. It is sooo wrong and yet we have been sooo conditioned to believe that there are in fact ¨negative¨ emotions.
Emotions are valid. All of them. All of the time.
So, how do you raise your kids in a more empowered way, WHILE staying sane?
..Ill get back to you on that when I figure it all out
